Think about you, too.

She was thinking about the chaos in her country. A group of terrorists attacked and almost got a hold of an entire city. It has been days and yet the war still goes on. There are still some civilians trapped in the area.

She was thinking of her family. They are not currently in the best condition. Being unemployed bother her and she feels like she’s no use in their house. She was also thinking about other people and how they view her and how they may judge her for her life decisions.

She was thinking too much. She was thinking a lot but snap! Why was she not thinking about herself?

For how many times, I’ve talked about how life can get painful. I’ve also talked about self-love. Sadly, when the former becomes too much, the latter hides behind the curtains. We tend to forget about ourselves when utter chaos hit our world. Actually, even the act of thinking too much about so many things is in itself destructive to ourselves.

If the things you worry about need your attention, let me tell you and so do you. Other people can attend to those other things but who will attend to you? It should be you too.

What we should do is to detach. Think about you and detach from everything else for a while. Detach and de-stress. Give yourself a permission to do these not just because you want to but because you need too. We all need to relax and re-energize.

Whatever would make you feel relaxed is up to you. You do it. You do it, especially during those times when it seems to be the least important thing to do because your plate is full. If you miss to find relaxation during those times, stress may build up in you.

Just don’t forget about yourself. Go backstage every time you have a chance, and do what you could do there to give yourself the love and care that you need and deserved.

Stressed or Anxious? (Part 2)

On part 1, I talked about what I know anxiety is and the ways that can help us prevent it or prevent anxiety episodes or anxiety attacks or panic attacks. On this part, I want to share with you the thing when I do when I am so stressed out and anxious.

Anxiety is like any other illnesses. We need to get through some tough times. We also need to take extra care of ourselves and when we experience attacks or when our “visitor” came, we got to do something. If I am having headaches, I drink paracetamol. If the visitor visited me, here are the things that I do. A disclaimer: I am not any expert, okay? What worked for me may not for everyone else.

  • Acupressure

This is very helpful when you’re out, in a public place for instance. When you felt the visitor, you can press the pressure points that may help relieve it. Refer to to know these points.

Using your knuckles, you can also try gently tapping the top of your head in a rhythmic manner to lead your visitor out the door.

  • Breathe

This was what my diabetes doctor told me, when I’m having my visitor, I can get a brown bag and breathe in it. According to him, the air I exhale should also be what I inhale. Get a brown bag and cover your nostrils and mouth with it; make sure no air’s coming out or in. Breathe in the bag through your mouth for 10-15 minutes.

There are also a lot of mobile applications that offer anxiety relief using different breathing exercises. Check them out. I suggest that you also read on their reviews just so you’d see that you’re never alone in this. The apps I’ve used were “Prana Breath” and “SAMapp“. The latter is also a great application that may help you understand anxiety better.

Without the help of anything, you can also breathe deeply on your own accord. Concentrate on your breathing as you deep in and out slowly and deeply. Count your breaths to deepen your concentration and get away with the visitor.

  • Mind Games

The main purpose of this is to distract our minds. Download mind games on your phone. I personally like Sudoku and Word Search, but Sudoku works better for me. Choose something really challenging.

  • Focus Elsewhere

If your phone’s not available to help you, just focus on whatever thing you can see. Examine that thing like as if you’ll be writing a dissertation about it. What is it? What color is it? Is it soft or rough; huge or small; round or whatever? What does it do? Done examining it yet you still feel the visitor? Find something else.

  • Talk

You could either tell someone that you’re stressed and then talk about it or start a conversation with someone about the first thing you’re able to think of apart your visitor. I hope both or either can help you.

  • Pray

When you don’t have someone to talk to, pray. I pray the rosary and recite a prayer in my mind over and over again. Sometimes, I write my prayers. This one’s very helpful to me. Have the faith and pray. Believe that all will be well.

After an episode, learn to stand up. Don’t be afraid that another one will come up. Stand up; rise up every after a fall. We can do it.

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. (Confucius)

It’s difficult to be strong, I should know, but all the time, it is possible. Yes?
It is also extremely important to keep a positive mindset. I know it’s not easy. It’s like drinking a really bitter medicine or going through painful operations when you have other diseases. It’s difficult yet a must. We’ll get better. Everything will be better. Believe

If there are a million reasons to be afraidthere are a billion reasons not to be.
*Hey guys, if you are going to comment, please be very careful as I am pretty sensitive. I’d like to be of help by sharing to you the knowledge that I have acquired. For now, that’s all the help I could offer.

Stressed or Anxious? (Part 1)

Ever since I’d begun this blog, I am hesitant in writing about this topic for the simple reason that while talking about it, I may feel it. Stress and anxiety were two of the not good things in life. Just the word anxiety makes me anxious tbh so let’s see how far I’ll go with this post. I’m hoping that it could be helpful still. Alright…

Since I’m scared of the word “anxiety”, I referred to myself as so stressed whenever I feel anxious. It’s almost the same anyway. Stress is one of the causes of anxiety. When you over think, you get stressed. When you get too stressed, you get anxious. Over thinking, I personally believe, is the main cause of anxiety. Other causes include physical condition, tension (which may also be caused by stress), fearful incidents, and genetics.

Anxiety can be felt mentally, physically, and both. When thoughts come in and in and in, and you feel like you’re losing control over them, that’s anxiety. When your heart’s palpitating with no reason and you feel an unexplainable tension, pain, or any physical sensation, that may also be anxiety. It’s different for everyone. But if you experience it, hey, you’re not alone. Also, don’t worry too much. There are ways on how you can cope with it. You’ll be well. Every episode shall pass.

I’m also hesitant to share this post because I worry that someone I personally know may read it and then, worry about me. Please don’t.

Anxiety, just like other illnesses, can be prevented through the following. A disclaimer though, I’m not an expert; these information were based from my experiences and the things I read.

  • Meditation

Meditation is a form of mind training. Its main purpose is to bring us back to the “now”. It trains the mind to focus in the moment and cut the train of thoughts that do not help us. The concept of meditation is not ignoring thoughts (no matter absurd); it’s about trying not to judge them so that we’ll be able to control them and not the other way around.

I used the mobile application “Calm” to meditate every night. This is basically how you meditate: (1) find a quiet place to sit down, (2) close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply in and out, (3) put all your focus on the flow of your breathing, (4) breathe normally and concentrate on your breathing for 5-10 minutes, (5) bring your focus back in the room you’re in, then (6) gently open your eyes.

  • Gratitude

Anxiety roots from negative thinking and so, to combat it, you need to be positive. I like another mobile app, “Bliss“. It’s an app that allows you to appreciate what you have to increase your happiness and improve the quality of your life. Another disclaimer, I’m not paid by any of these applications. I find them helpful so I’m sharing them with you.

Bliss has many options. You can list three things you’re thankful about daily or just write in a paragraph form the things and people you’re grateful about. You may also re-imagine a not so good situation and turn it into good. Each activity could really help us remove our focus on the things that are not working out, in our lives as well as our daily worries.

  • Rest

So simple yet not all of us does it. I’ve read that we experience anxiety episodes when our bodies were trying to tell us something. My body told me on the last day of 2015 that my blood glucose level is high through an anxiety episode. It’s not always that extreme though. Most of the time, we get anxious because our body needed rest.

We should acknowledge that we also have limitations. A machine will malfunction if used beyond its capability and so will a human body. When you’re tired, rest. You won’t stop, you will just take a break. You don’t have to sleep, you could just take a nap.

  • Pamper Yourself

Each of us needed relaxation. Each of us deserves pampering. Not all of us has the means to go to spas or massage therapists I know. But we definitely can still relax.

Here’s what I do when I pamper myself: (1) clean my nails and paint them, (2) light scented candles [strawberry and grapes] and massage my head, (3) put on face mask, (4) exfoliate my skin with milk salt, and sometimes (5) listen to ASMR through YouTube.

  • Express Yourself

Don’t hold onto your emotions and thoughts. Release them through different mediums. You could write them in your diary, blog about them, or talk to your friends or family about them. You could also indirectly release your stressors through drawing, painting, baking, singing, or any activity that works best for you.

Let it go! Let it go! Don’t hold it back anymore. (Let It Go from Frozen)

  • Yoga

Anyone can do yoga. Everyone should do yoga. Yoga is not only a great physical activity that can help us tone our body, it is also a form of mental training and relaxation. Yoga includes different poses; each focusing on one or more organs of our bodies. It also includes different breathing techniques that could help relieve stress and anxiety.

I do yoga with the help of the mobile apps “Yoga Monkey” and “Sworkit“, and  “Yoga with Adriene”  on YouTube.

  • Workout

There are different workouts that help us become fitter. Aside from their benefits for our body, it also has positive benefits for our thoughts and emotions. Working out may help us clear our mind and whenever we work out, we release endorphins (also referred as “happy hormones”).

I know we tend to be really busy with our daily lives and sometimes we no longer have the energy to workout after a day of work. We can always start small like 5 minutes of warm-up cardio before we head onto the shower every morning. The app “Sworkit” helped me plan my workout routines for every week.

  • Seek God

To me, knowing that there’s someone out there gives me hope and security. I trust that He will always save me from my troubles. I read Bible daily and other devotional books. I also pray all the time.

That’s all for this part. On part 2, I’ll share with you the things we can do when we’re having our visitors.

I want to end this post with my current favorite quote.

*Hey guys, if you are going to comment, please be very careful as I am pretty sensitive. I’d like to be of help by sharing to you the knowledge that I have acquired. For now, that’s all the help I could offer.

May magagawa ka pa ba?

Isa ito sa mga life lessons na simple lang ang concept pero honestly, mahirap i-apply pero kaya naman. Kaya naman kaya dapat subukan. Dapat pag-aralan. Dapat pag-practice-san hanggang makasanayan. Kapag nasanay na tayo, naniniwala ako magiging malaking tulong ito para sa atin.

Ano ang tinutukoy ko?

Ito. Sa t’wing nai-stress tayo, itanong natin sa mga sarili natin ang sanhi ng pagka-stress natin. Pagkatapos, isunod naman natin ang tanong na “May magagawa pa ba ako?”

Kung ang sagot ay meron naman, edi gawin natin. Kung ang sagot naman ay wala na, edi i-let go na natin. May mga bagay kasi talagang hindi natin maaaring pakialaman o kontrolin. Gano’n lang talaga.

Huwag nating hayaang ma-stress tayo sa mga bagay na wala na naman tayong magagawa. Huwag din nating hayaang ma-stress pa tayo sa mga problemang kayang-kaya naman pala nating solusyunan.

Ang stress kasi nakakapagod. Sa stress, p’wede kang magkasakit. Buti na lang ang stress p’wedeng agapan sa pamamagitan ng tamang mindset. So ano, may magagawa ka pa ba?

OK lang ang “OK lang.”

Oo naman, kung minsan, kailangan mo talagang ilabas ‘yong nararamdaman mo. Kapag tinanong ka ng “Kumusta?” Pwedeng-pwede mong i-share ang mga problema mo, ang mga worries mo, at ang nararamdaman mong stress. Pero minsan, ayos na rin ang sagot na “OK lang.” kahit ang totoo, hindi.

Bakit? Kasi hindi naman din magtatagal at magiging OK ka lang talaga. Hindi naman tatagal ‘yang mga problema mo, unless tatambayan mo. ‘Yang mga worries mo, wala namang merit ang mga ‘yan sa future mo unless io-overanalyze mo. At ‘yang stress mo, tawanan mo lang ‘yan at mag-relax ka lang, huhupa rin ‘yan.

Kung minsan, ang sagot na “OK lang” means may pinagdadaanan ako pero alam ko naman sa sarili ko na strong ako kaya kung hindi man ako totoong OK ngayon, ayos lang dahil sooner or later, magiging totoong OK rin ako. 

Huwag nang gawing kumplikado ang buhay o ang mga problema. Ikaw lang din ‘yong mahihirapan. Take it from me. Ang bago kong mantra ngayon: “Simplehan lang natin, bes.” 🙂

Happy Valentine’s Day nga pala. Kumusta ang araw mo? Ako, OK lang. OK lang talaga, may family date kami mamaya. Hehe. ❤

So stressed.

Behind all those motivational posts is a writer who is so stressed. All those words of motivations are directed to me. I’m stressed and I no longer want to hide it. *sigh*

I’m stressed because I’m pressured to go out of my comfort zone and whenever I try to, I get too scared that I can’t help but bounce back my comfort zone. I’m pressuring myself and I’m being pressured by myself and other people. That’s a fact.

I never wanted a post like this. I may delete this in the future but today, I just want to let it all out. I just really need a breather.

It’s sad-how my life is so far. I am a graduate of a 5-year course and yet, I don’t have a job. I had one back in 2014, the same year of my graduation but then I simply threw it aside. I quitted. I was and am a quitter. I’m not proud of myself and the many stupid decisions that I’ve made in the past. If I could go back, I’d not leave that job.

I headed onto a very sedentary life which later on cause me to lose my freedom to consume any food that I like. I became a diabetic. Honestly, it is making me depressed and scared at times. Even though I know I shouldn’t let the disease become the boss of my life.

I had been writing the same things. *sigh number 2* It just goes to show that I couldn’t completely move on from the past. So much for that post “It’s a new day.” Btw, I’m someone who constantly thinks about what other people think about me. Yes, yes, “Judgmental lang sila, Bes.” is for myself and I’m Lika in the story.

*sigh number 3* Sorry for being dramatic in this post but I’m not sorry for being weak. I believe we all deserved a moment to remove our armors and our masks to reveal our tears and our scars; thus, “You could cry.” and “It’s OK not to be OK.

Hindi talaga ako stressed, Bes. Gusto ko lang i-plug ‘yong mga mga nasulat ko na. Daming segway e.