On Letting Go

We all have a past that we want to forget, a past that we regret, a past that we wish never happened, a past that we wish we could change, and/or a past we that we never wanted to end. We all do. We all do.

Past. It’s where most of our pains root. It’s where we left parts of ourselves that we wish to have back. It’s where our hearts got broken. It’s where our tears dropped.

Past. In other words, done. In other words, unexchangeable. In other words, let it go.

Letting go, as we all know, is vital in life but is also extremely difficult. First of all, how to start? How to start accepting what had been done without confronting the pain again? How to start forgetting what had been said? How to stop regretting? It’s way, way difficult that anyone could ever anticipate.

Letting go can be a long, long process. A long, long emotional battle. A long mental struggle. It’s tiring. It’s tiring.

But, it’s vital. Let’s always go back to that. It’s vital. Letting go is vital in living the present. Live in the present, they said. But actually, before you could really do that, you have to let go of your past first. Otherwise, the past will mess around with the present.

So, what can we do to let go of the past?

  1. Forgive ourselves.
  2. Forgive others.
  3. Forgive life.

And again, these three promised to be such grueling processes. But think about them. Think about their importance.

Tonight, I’ll be praying for us. May we finally learn to let go of our pasts by being able to do those three difficult steps. Then, after we let go, may we be more open to love ourselves, to love others, and to love life.

Some Mornings…

Her alarm goes on. She wakes up. She feels body pain. She taps the dismiss button. She goes back to sleep.

There are these mornings when she’s out of it. Her body’s tired and wanting more attention. Her body’s flawed in so many levels. It gets tired a lot. It gets sick. It is sick. Pains arise, some profound. That’s just part of who she is.

She wakes up again. Still, the pain is there. She doesn’t want to stay in bed for long though. She knows it will only make the matters worse. She has to fight and the battle is long and many. She always has to fight.

She prays. She tells him what she’s feeling and that she’s scared. Sometimes, she gets mad. She hates being sick. Other times, she just goes by it as she does not have any choice anyway.

Finally, she manages to break out of her bed. Her body’s sore yet she has to emerge from the pain and start her day… and seize the day. She has to. She closes her eyes and meditates. She hopes for the pain to decrease. Sometimes, it does. Other times, it’s the other way around.

She makes her bed. She stands up feeling a bit woozy but she cannot let that feeling get into her. She has to fight. She opens the door. She knows that the day’s gonna be longer. Ready or not, she goes out of the room with hopes of getting better and a lot more. Hope… It keeps her going.

Use Your Pains as Motivation

I have been bullied. I have been laughed at. I have been an outcast. I have been rejected. I have been ignored. I have been hurt a lot of times.

I know, we all have been. We all once cry or simply bow our heads. We all had that time when we lose our confidence or it was taken away from us. We have been hurt physically, mentally, and emotionally. We have all been bruised yet we’re all still standing.

Despite all those pains, we are all standing. We are all here, bruised yet alive; bruised yet alive.

We will feel all the pain or some of it at certain times. Something or someone will make us remember those times when we got our hearts broken or torn apart. Those times will surely come not just once… not just once.

What should we do if we reach that point in our lives? We always have a choice. But I hope we always choose to turn our pains into motivations. Let them motivate us to love ourselves more and no longer let anybody or any criticism from anybody affect is. 

Let’s let our pain be our motivation to excel in our lives and be the happiest we can be. Let’s let the pain and all our current and past destructors be our motivations to be strong, strong enough to always choose to forgive rather than hold useless grudges; strong enough to control our emotions rather than let them sweep us away; strong enough to always choose love and peace instead of hate and depair.

Pains, what do you know, could also be positive. It just goes to show how perspective could change everything. Let’s always go on the side that’s best for us. Let’s always choose where light shines and where we can shine the most. 🙂