Take the Lead (Tagalog)

Kanina sa jeep, sabi no’ng mga katabi ko na kasasakay lang ang hirap daw sumakay kasi ‘yong mga tao imbes na umusog papunta sa driver para kaagad makaupo ‘yong mga sumasakay, umuusog papunta sa pasukan o pintuan. Hindi mo naman kasi talaga masisisi ang mga tao, lahat tayo gusto mapadali ang ginagawa natin. Gusto ng mga pasahero na madali silang makababa kapag nakarating na sila sa mga destinasyon nila.

Pero siyempre may punto naman talaga ‘yong mga katabi ko. Mas maganda naman talaga kung magparaya ‘yong mga tao para mapadali ang gawain ng kapwa nila. Ang problema lang ng mga taong kagaya ng mga katabi ko, pagpuna lamang at reklamo ang ginagawa nila. Anong pakialam ng mga pasahero sa opinyon nila? Wey.

Ang magandang gawin is to take lead. Huwag ka lang magdada-dada dahil sigurado akong minsan o makalawa sa buhay mo e ginawa mo rin ‘yong bagay na nirereklamo mo. Sadyang ikaw ang nabiktima ng norm o mga gawaing nakasanayan kaya kung makapagreklamo ka ngayon wagas-wagasan, teh.

Ang problema kasi sa atin porket iyon ang nakasanayan kahit pa alam nating mali or mas may maganda at maayos pang paraan para gawin ang isang bagay, doon pa rin tayo sa nakasanayan.

Back in 2014, sa isang interview ko kasama ang isang Senior Industrial Engineer, tinanong ako kung may tanong daw ba ako. Ang sabi ko paano ba natin makukumbinsi ang mga emplayadong nagre-resist sa change na palitan ang nakasanayang paraan nila ng pagtatrabaho at gamitin ang mga bagong prosesong d-in-esign ng mga IEs. Ang sagot niya sa akin, ipapakita daw niya mismo ang mga bagong proseso. Kumbaga, siya mismo ang gagawa o magde-demonstrate.

Mahirap daw kasi kung ie-explain mo lang. Kung sasabihin mo lang na mapapabilis sila kung ganito-ganiyan ang gagawin nila, panigurado hindi sila basta-basta maniniwala. Pero kung ipapakita mo na ito ganito, oh di ba mas mabilis, malaki ang tsansa na paniniwalaan ka nila at susundin ka nila.

Huwag tayong mag-expect masyado sa ibang tao. Sa tingin ko, first nature na natin ang intindihin muna ang sarili natin kaysa sa iba. Ang maganda nating gawin, maging halimbawa tayo. Kapag may nakita tayong butas sa mga bagay na ginagawa natin, huwag tayong mag-alangan na ayusin ito. Hindi natin kailangan magreklamo tungkol sa butas na iyon. Mas magiging epektibo kung sisimulan na natin siyang ayusin, malay mo makita ka ng iba at sundan ka. Eh di naayos ng bonggang-bongga ‘yong butas, ‘yong sira, ‘yong problema.

Kumbaga, Bes, may nangyari. Kung salita lang ang kaya mo, wala rin kasing mangyayari. Kaya naman, idaan na natin kaagad sa gawa. Totoo ‘yong kasabihang, kung gusto mong baguhin ang mundo, simulan mo ang pagbabago sa sarili mo.

Isang pinagpalang Linggo sa ating lahat!

A Flow of Thoughts

Life is a series of what ifs and more questions. We are not meant to understand everything. What we’re meant to do is live. Just live…

Live your life the way you see fit. You can be a humanitarian who fights for human rights and who helps people in need. You can be an artist, always inside his own world; if outside, always looking for an inspiration; people, honestly, do not appeal to you that much. You can be someone of strong faith; you want to inspire people to believe to and love God and one another. You can be an atheist too who’s of good nature anyway; you help people without thinking that you’ll end up in heaven.

Anything. Basically, anything. We can be anything. And as long as we don’t hurt ourselves nor other people, I believe there’s nothing wrong with that. Let us not deprive ourselves of our passion, of that freedom to do our passion. Let’s give ourselves the serenity of being happy by living life as how we feel like living it.

Sadness, hopelessness, worries, fears… Oh! Who does not feel them? We all feel them. We feel them all. And that’s normal. It is normal to be sensitive sometimes and insensitive other times. It is normal to be grateful of the silliest, littlest things and then, ungrateful for the big ones. It is normal to be mad and be forgiving. It is normal to make mistakes, hurt others or yourself. It is perfectly normal to have so many emotions and even to get overwhelmed by these emotions. You got to snap back though; you got to take yourself back to the present. You got to release all your negative emotions and embrace the positive ones–those you need.

Don’t wish for a perfectly happy life for that kind of life has never existed. Wish for a strong heart, a brave mind, a great you who can get pass through all the obstacles in your life. Be a you who can wipe your tears after a good cry, a you who knows how to forgive yourself for every stupid things you’ve done, a you who is nice to everyone even if not everyone’s nice to you, a you who knows who s/he is, a you who loves her/himself, a you who appreciates what life is and everything in it.

Along the way, you’ll fall–whoever you are or however great you are. We’re all destined to fall. Not all of us knows how to stand back up though; know. Mold yourself into someone who’s ready to surpass a great fall. Be stronger than that fall.

And for those who can’t still stand up, now is the time to do it. Slowly but surely. Find a foundation that can help you stand on your feet. Find it now. And then hold onto it, grab it with all your might. Stand up. Stand up and then move forward. You can do it. Even if it seems impossible, so long as you’re breathing, you can.

Yes, so long as there’s life, we can… We can be what we want to become. We can be awesome. We can be great. We can be happy. We can love and be loved. We can… People, it’s time we live… really live.

She tried.

First of all, I am a Filipino. Second of all, of course, I’d like our candidate to win again. Yes, I am talking about the 65th Miss Universe, which was held here in the Philippines. I’d like to talk about Ms. Maxine Medina, our candidate further, specifically about her Q&A moment.

The pressure was definitely on, and it became greater I believe when the judges mentioned that the Q&A or the Question and Answer portion will really determine who will wear the crown. For Maxine, the pressure was greatest as she was the first to answer one of those difficult questions that were raised, I believe.

Now, the interpreter. For the entire month, it has been a huge issue here in the Philippines. It just so happened that a lot of Filipinos suddenly became grammarians when it comes to Maxine-on her social media posts, interview answers, etc. Many believed, strongly may I just add, that our candidate will fail with her usage of English and they assumed that she can perform better if she’ll just use our native language. Well, nothing’s wrong with that anyway. Filipino, like every other language and dialect around the world, is beautiful. And I think that’s exactly why a Filipino-English interpreter was present in the stage.

I, like a lot of Filipinos, cannot just understand the need for bashing, hating, bullying from Filipinos to a fellow Filipino. It may-“may”-have an effect on Maxine’s choice in the end to answer in English, to prove her haters that she can.

So, yes, that’s what she did. Even with the present of an interpreter, Miss Philippines answered in English. Is it flawless? No. Does it have any relevance to the question? Yes, if you’d look at the thought of her answer, rather than how she was able to deliver it. Did she do a great job? No, because she wasn’t able to articulate her thoughts very well. Why do I think so? Pressure, distrust, and nerves.

Despite everything, I am proud of Maxine. I think she’s truly an inspiration. She stood there confidently, her smile’s never fading. And most of all, she tried. She went outside of her comfort zone by not answering a difficult question in her native tongue. Even though she wasn’t able to deliver a winning answer, she proved that she can, with poise, answer in the language many people called her weakness. She must be proud of herself. She’s definitely a strong woman.

As for Miss France, the new reigning Miss Universe, I believe she won because she was herself the entire time. It was evident how she loves cooking and she’s very proud of her country. She put herself out there but still she was able to represent France beautifully. Congratulations to her and to the rest of the 86 Miss Universe candidates! Ah, so many beautiful women in the universe. ❤

No, you’re not any better.

Don’t think so highly of yourself. You are not any better than anyone. Even if you’re now successful and others not, that doesn’t mean you’re better. It only means that you have more. You have no rights to put down anyone. And the same goes for those who are unsuccessful. You have no rights to judge your successful peers and find the ugly in their lives. You’re no better to do that.

You are not better than anyone, even if the person you love loves you too. You’re just fortunate or blessed but you’re not better than someone who’s alone. And if you’re alone, you’re not any better with those couples who are shouting at each other during their endless arguments. You have no rights to butt in, whisper to others your unsolicited opinions. You’re no better, remember that.

No, you’re not better than me and I am not better than you. We’re equals, although ultimately diverse. I cannot judge you, you can’t judge me too. If I think I knew better, that’s exactly when I knew nothing at all. The same goes for you.

Compassion is what the world needs, not finding who’s better or who’s worse.