Oh, umiiyak ka na naman.

‘Yong totoo, nagiging hobby mo na ang pag-iyak, ah. Kailangan ba araw-araw? Mamaya niyan manuyo na yang mata mo. Mamaya niyan maubusan ka na ng luha. Tama na… Tahan na. Ha?

Oo, alam ko naman e. Matigas ang ulo mo. Kapag sinabihan kang tahan na, lalo kang iiyak kahit pa alam nating lahat na hindi naman niyan masosolusyunan ang lahat, lahat ng pinagdadaanan mo.

Lahat naman ng tao may pinagdadaanan, may pasan-pasan na bagahe, iba-iba nga lang ang bigat. Iba-iba rin naman tayo ng lakas. Gaya lang ‘yan ng pagwo-workout e. Kailangan mong magbuhat ng weights para lumakas ka. Kailangan nating dumaan sa mga pagsubok para tumibay tayo. Parte ‘yan ng buhay. Kasama ‘yan sa paghubog natin sa ating pagkatao.

Alam ko naman hindi talaga mabait ang buhay sa ‘yo. Alam ko naman na kaiyak-iyak naman talaga ‘yong mga nangyayari sa buhay mo. Ang akin lang, magpakatatag ka. Huwag mong idaan lagi sa iyak. Walang masama sa pag-iyak pero subukan mo ring mag-isip at gumawa ng solusyon.

Kaya punasan mo na ‘yang mga luha mo. Huwag ka nang maghintay pa na may taong dumating para magpunas niyan at magpatahan sa ‘yo. Alagaan mo ang sarili mo, pero huwag kang liliko kapag may nakita kang harang sa daan mo. Kapag umulan ba, hindi ka na lalabas kahit kailangan? Para saan pa ang payong, hindi ba? Be strong for yourself.

Focus, Captain

Have you experienced pausing while you’re cooking and trying to remember if you already add salt to your meal? Have you ever experienced reading and then forgetting the contents of a page the moment you flip to the next? Have you experienced entering a room only to wonder why you did?

I do think we all have experienced those kinds of things. We’ve all fallen confused and that’s because we let ourselves slipped into autopilot. When the mind got too used in doing a particular task, it can really get so full of itself. It will no longer put its attention to the task but rather, it will process other thoughts. This is when accidents happen like us cutting ourselves while dicing onions or adding salt to our coffee instead of sugar or misinterpreting other’s words.

The antidote to autopilot is focus. The mind is not the pilot, you are. Wake up, captain! Look at where you’re going. Be present. Be in the moment.

I know it’s not easy to focus on the task at hand especially when you know that you still have a lot of things to do after it. But, if you’ll weigh in all the pros and cons of being in an autopilot, you’ll see that there’ll be more cons. The greatest con for me is losing the moment.

When you’re in autopilot, you may miss the butterflies, you may not see the beautiful smile of your friend as she stares at her crush, you may not feel the fresh air, you may not hear the songs of the birds, you may not notice the blue sky, you may not catch the lovely leaf that falls from its lovely tree, you may not be able to enjoy…

So, take things one at a time. Just one at a time. Don’t rush living. Always focus, captain.

A Love Letter

Hey. How are you? I hope you’re good. No, I hope you’re doing great. I hope you’re happy. Maybe, this letter could make you smile. I hope it would.

I write to tell you how I admire you. I admire your strength, your strength to always stay in the good side despite all those temptations. You are strong. I hope you know that. I know you’ve been through a lot but still, you haven’t lost your kindness and good nature. Hey, give yourself more credit. I feel like you don’t because I always catch you in a bitter mood.

Another thing that make me admire you is your resilience. I know it’s difficult for you to do what you’re doing yet you keep on doing them the best that you can. You don’t give up. Maybe, sometimes, you already want to shout or cry but you do not. I guess it’s because you know it wouldn’t do you good so you just choose to be positive at all times. That’s admirable. Really. But don’t forget to give yourself a break too, okay?

I sometimes catch you being too serious. It’s funny, but I don’t laugh I promise. Just, just don’t take everything seriously. I would love to see you laugh. I would love to know that you’re happy, truly happy. That being said, I sometimes notice how unreal your smiles are. I just feel they’re off. I want you to smile and to laugh but if you’re only faking it, then better not do it. I know you’re not perfect and I think I’ll also like it if you would express your sadness. It’s also for you. You have to let go of those not so pretty emotions.

I love you. I love you that’s why I want you to be truly happy whatever that means for you. I love you and I wish you would also find your happiness. I love you and I hope you would appreciate yourself more and please take care of yourself more. Always remember that you’re loved. Even if everyone leaves you, know that I will remain. God will always be with you, too. We got your back, my dear self.

Sino ka?

Sa tingin ko, ang pinakaimportanteng dapat magawa ng isang young adult ay ang kilalaning mabuti ang sarili niya. Alamin kung ano ba talagang gusto niya, kung ano ang makakapagpasaya sa kaniya, kung sino talaga siya.

Dapat nating malaman kung sino ba talaga tayo…

Sino ba talaga ako?

At kapag nalaman na natin kung sino talaga tayo, pakiramdam ko hindi na tayo maaapektuhan ng kahit anong pangungutya pero ang mas importante doon, magiging confident na tayo.

Confidence. Hindi lang mawawala ‘yong hiya natin kung hindi magiging confident din tayo na umalis sa comfort zone natin para magsimulang maglakbay sa path na gusto natin. Confidence… Confidence to make big decisions… Confidence to mold our life as how we want to… Confidence and strength to stand up with our own feet.

Kapag kilala natin ang sarili natin, hindi tayo malilito. Hindi tayo maghahanap ng kasagutan kung saan-saan sa tanong ng buhay na: ano ba ang gusto mong marating? Kapag kilala natin ang sarili natin, alam na rin natin kung paano ifu-fulfill at pasasayahin ang mga sarili natin.

Alam ko mahirap din talaga. Pero siguro, dapat nating mag-effort. Gaya kung paano tayo nag-e-effort kapag may taong gusto tayong makilala, pagtuunan din nating ng oras at effort ang pagkilala sa ating mga sarili.

Sino ba ako? Ano bang gusto ko? Anong ayaw ko? Bakit ako galit? Bakit ako malungkot? Bakit ako masaya? Paano pa ako mas sasaya? Paano ko masasabing kontento na ako?

At sa bawat tanong na nasasagutan, matuto tayong tanggapin ang mga katotohanan. Huwag mong i-expect na perpekto ka. Mayroon at mayroon siguradong hindi ka magandang katangian na maaari mo namang baguhin. Mayroon at mayroon ka siguradong matutuklasang kahinaan mo na maaari mong i-improve.

Kilalanin mo ang sarili mo. Tanggapin mo ang sarili mo. Mahalin mo ang sarili mo. Then, I believe dahan-dahan, unti-unti, magiging maayos na din ang lahat. Ika nga, “…start with yourself.”

Use Your Pains as Motivation

I have been bullied. I have been laughed at. I have been an outcast. I have been rejected. I have been ignored. I have been hurt a lot of times.

I know, we all have been. We all once cry or simply bow our heads. We all had that time when we lose our confidence or it was taken away from us. We have been hurt physically, mentally, and emotionally. We have all been bruised yet we’re all still standing.

Despite all those pains, we are all standing. We are all here, bruised yet alive; bruised yet alive.

We will feel all the pain or some of it at certain times. Something or someone will make us remember those times when we got our hearts broken or torn apart. Those times will surely come not just once… not just once.

What should we do if we reach that point in our lives? We always have a choice. But I hope we always choose to turn our pains into motivations. Let them motivate us to love ourselves more and no longer let anybody or any criticism from anybody affect is. 

Let’s let our pain be our motivation to excel in our lives and be the happiest we can be. Let’s let the pain and all our current and past destructors be our motivations to be strong, strong enough to always choose to forgive rather than hold useless grudges; strong enough to control our emotions rather than let them sweep us away; strong enough to always choose love and peace instead of hate and depair.

Pains, what do you know, could also be positive. It just goes to show how perspective could change everything. Let’s always go on the side that’s best for us. Let’s always choose where light shines and where we can shine the most. 🙂

Dear You…

Be grateful. You have a lot of things to be thankful for. On top of the list is the life that God didn’t give you, but God made for you. Take time to reflect on these two’s difference. God didn’t simply give you life. God made you; God made your life only for you. It’s the greatest gift. Embrace it no matter how difficult it may seem at the moment. Always remember that it’s God’s creation and so, he’ll always be in control of it.

Let go. Learn to sort things out. Keep those which you needed and get rid of the ones you don’t. The latter does not need to occupy some important spaces which the former can actually make use of. You’re not meant to sail a still ocean. Life throws lemons; use the good ones and throw the rotten ones.

Love. Don’t be afraid to feel different emotions. Don’t be afraid to be happy just because sadness may come next. Don’t be afraid of sadness, of fear, and the other negative emotions. Don’t be afraid of them so that they won’t be able to control you. Most especially, don’t be afraid to fall in love. Don’t be afraid to give a part of yourself to other people. Don’t be afraid to love only because of the pain it may result. You’re born to love.

Be happy. They say happiness is a choice and that it is not meant to be chased. I believe in them. Every day, you can choose happiness. Even if you’re not feeling it, you can still choose it. There’s nothing wrong in that. You got to be optimistic for life’s never constant. Keep smiling and let your smile shine for others too who need happiness in their lives.

Hope. Never let hope leave your heart. Keep hope deep within and let it grow day by day. Hope for better tomorrows yet never fail to appreciate today. Hope for awesome opportunities but also try to knock certain doors that could lead to your dreams. Hope for a better you and strive. Hope and water your hope.

Cherish every moment. Lastly, always be present. Moments don’t last no matter how so badly you want them too. And so enjoy each moment, each company, each laughter, each tear. Enjoy life as it is moment per moment. Don’t let yourself have any regrets. Live…

Live God’s gift especially for you with a grateful heart, take every learning that you can take and forget about the bad things, never resist any emotion but never let any of them control you too, smile, dream big, and seize every day!

Accept Yourself

I knew that it is extremely important to love yourself and forgive yourself for all your mistakes. I hadn’t realized that it is also of utmost importance to accept yourself, first actually before you do the other two.

I’ve always been shy. I lack self-confidence and so, I don’t know how to carry myself. I don’t know how to talk people. I have no idea how I can make friends. I just realized that it’s not really because people don’t like me. It is mainly because I don’t like myself and then I just assumed that everyone doesn’t too. Sad, right? I’ve been too hard on myself. I deprived myself of happiness, of joy.

Yes, we all need to strive to be better persons but vitally I believe, we have to learn to accept ourselves first as we are. We have to accept our weaknesses, and not just be proud of our strengths. We have to accept that we’ve failed, and not just proudly accept our recognitions and accomplishments. We have to accept that we could do others wrong, just like how they could do the same to us. We have to truly accept that we are way, way, way… far from the word “perfect”.

It’s difficult, I should know, to accept your flaws. It’s difficult to accept that your body is not as fit as how you wanted it to be, no matter how huge the effort you allot for it. It’s difficult to accept that your eyes are not as big or not as small, your nose is not as pointed, your lips is not as thin or as thick, your face is not shaped… as you wanted. We’ll always have fantastic visions in our mind of what could have been, not only on our physicality, but then again, there are simply things that we cannot change. And even if we can change them, we have to accept them first.

Even the life’s most excruciating experience demands acceptance, for what else would it demand other than that? And so do you… And so everyone of us. If you love someone but not accept them fully, could you really call it love? If you forgive someone for the wrong they did to you but don’t accept them, could you really call it forgiveness?

Maybe, just like me, you’re struggling with your life right now. And maybe, just like me, you very much needed self-acceptance. I know the process will not be easy and it may take a while but I also know-and believe with all my heart-that it will be worth it.